Couples Counseling
Couples Counseling
Many couples seek therapy because communication has become their primary source of conflict. Without effective ways to discuss concerns, unresolved issues tend to escalate and reinforce unhelpful relational patterns. Couples often approach problems using the same strategies they've always used, which can unintentionally deepen the negative cycle.
Couples therapy creates space to understand these communication patterns and explore how each partner responds during moments of tension. Together, we work toward developing healthier, more constructive ways of engaging so that you no longer feel stuck in repetitive, ineffective interactions.
To support this process, I primarily draw from Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method—evidence-based approaches that help couples strengthen emotional connection, improve communication, and navigate conflict more productively. Depending on the level of distress in the relationship, therapy typically begins with foundational education before moving into deeper application and relational skill-building.
Affair and Betrayal Trauma
As an Associate Sex Addiction Therapist, I utilize the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals’ (IITAP) 30-Task Model to guide individuals who have caused harm in establishing sobriety and preparing for the Full Therapeutic Disclosure process. This specialized training allows me to work with individuals impacted by betrayal trauma related to a partner’s infidelity.
Betrayal trauma can also be the result of substance abuse or other process addictions, such as gambling. The behavior, whether problematic in nature or if it meets criterion for an addiction, can profoundly impact loved ones leaving them to often experience a deep sense of powerlessness. Partners may cycle through intense emotional responses, including anger, hurt, fear, compassion, and love, while coping with secrecy and broken trust. In an effort to understand or regain control, many partners become hyper-focused on monitoring the addict’s behavior, often at the expense of their own well-being and that of their family. Feelings of shame, isolation, and grief are common, along with the painful fear that hopes for a secure and fulfilling future have been lost.
Many partners feel blamed for their loved one’s actions or mistakenly take responsibility for the addiction, sometimes compromising their own values in an attempt to prevent further acting out. It is important to understand that the addict alone is responsible for their compulsive behavior. While the betrayal creates a significant emotional crisis, healing is possible. Engaging in intentional recovery work allows partners to process anger and pain, reclaim their sense of self, and move toward personal healing, while also creating the possibility for a healthier relationship if the addict chooses recovery.
For betrayed partners, I provide support in identifying needs, setting boundaries, and determining what is necessary for emotional and physical safety—this may include considerations such as therapeutic separation when appropriate. I collaborate closely with ASAT/CSAT clinicians to ensure that each partner receives comprehensive, coordinated care throughout healing and restoration.
Assessment utilized for betrayal trauma
IPAST - Inventory for Partner Attachment, Stress & Trauma